Navigating Friendships: A Girly Guide to Choosing the Right People in Your Life

The Enchantment of Early Mornings

Oh, darling, there’s just something utterly enchanting about waking up early, donning your most charming smile, and indulging in a crisp, cold can of Coke—or perhaps a steaming cup of coffee if that tickles your fancy, heehee! Picture this: you’re perched on the porch, swaying gently in a rocking chair, serenaded by the sweet melodies of chirping birds. In those moments, my little thoughts seem so trivial compared to the sheer beauty of the world around me. It’s pure magic, a delightful peace that I simply crave. I long to sit quietly, just me and the beauty of nature, feeling utterly content. This little yearning makes me ponder, “Do I really need friends?” I know, I know, the answer is, “Of course, Chelsea, we all need friends!” But... why, my dear? After a mere 20 seconds of contemplation, I still find myself without a solid answer. However, I do have a perspective that I simply must share with you today!

Choosing Our Friends Wisely

Before I dive into my thoughts on friendship, let’s remind ourselves to be oh-so-selective about who we invite into our lives, especially those we call friends. Being around someone means we open ourselves up to their beliefs, desires, and fears. (Okay, darling, brace yourself for a little biblical wisdom!) (Run if you’re feeling rebellious!) In 1 Samuel 16, God speaks to Samuel about Saul, who was rejected as king of Israel. Samuel was grieving over Saul, and God gently asked, “Why?” Such a simple yet profound question, and one of my absolute favorites! Why did Samuel grieve so deeply over someone God had turned away? I can’t help but feel a tad hypocritical here, as I’ve surrounded myself with a boy who brought me grief through his own choices. I’ve turned to God countless times, asking Him to fix someone else’s problems. But why? Why grieve for someone who has their own relationship with a God capable of healing? That’s not my role, nor was it Samuel’s. Our purpose is to uplift our community, our city, our nation! While we may be strong and brave, these battles aren’t ours to fight; we should focus on nurturing ourselves and our families.

A Little Homework for You

Oh, and don’t fret, I’ve sprinkled a little homework into this blog post—consider it a gift! ;)

• Sit Still and Meditate : https://youtu.be/CTKtUK1wo_I?si=m6LgR_pVjFUgAtcy

  
  

The Call to Action

After gently instructing Samuel to stop grieving over Saul and to GET. TO. WORK., God sent him off to find the next King of Israel! And oh, how important this message is!  But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” This verse is a precious gem to remember when choosing friends. God will guide you to the right ones, and your intuition will surely know. “So, how do we discern someone’s heart?” you might ask. Well, my dear, we must first look within ourselves. Can we even hear our own intuition? Do we notice if our bodies tense up around certain individuals? We must take the time to truly understand our hearts and ourselves. Once we do, we can get to know someone for who they are and ask ourselves if they’re the type of friend we desire.

Inspiring Friendships

Our friends should inspire us to dream and engage in delightful conversations about life and shared experiences that allow us to grow together. They should be honest about their feelings and shower us with kindness. The lovely souls we welcome into our lives should lead with integrity, love, and transparency, encouraging us to blossom both inside and out. “But Chelsea, no one is perfect!” you might exclaim. “There’s no one with a pure heart and no hidden agendas, and I have to settle.” Oh, sweetie, believe me, you don’t have to settle for anyone! The right people will elevate your drive, enhance your mental well-being, and fill your heart with joy.

"UNTIL YOU GET COMFORTABLE WITH BEING ALONE, YOU'LL NEVER KNOW IF YOU'RE CHOOSING SOMEONE OUT OF LOVE OR LONELINESS"

Be Your Own Fabulous Friend

So, if you’re not currently surrounded by those who fit this delightful description, why not be that fabulous friend for yourself and your family? Go out, mingle, join our Girls Day, participate in our Book Club, and engage in activities that give you that magical, peaceful porch feeling. Create your dream life, and trust that your intuition (and/or God) will guide you to those with genuinely beautiful hearts.